Welcome to the Winter edition of Behind the Scenes at Laurel Psychodrama Training Institute! The mantra from Dale and Nina seems especially apt at this time of year when many people set goals for the new year.
Much has been written about the difference between goals and intentions. Goals are benchmarks we set for ourselves. Goals generally emerge from a deficit mindset: Something is wrong with me, and I need to fix it. By accomplishing my goal, I will be more acceptable to myself and others. On the other hand, intentions emerge from our most prized values and focus more on how we show up for the next leg of our journey, rather than what we accomplish at the end of it.
Theory and research on self-compassion clearly demonstrate that the “cattle prod” or harsh critic way of motivating ourselves does not work. Instead, it is more beneficial to mindfully and compassionately discern which roles we want to bring our best effort and energy to, and in which roles we are satisfied to be adequate.
This year, I invite you to join me in taking a risk to dare to be adequate.
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